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Matchbox unveils the methods behind its matching process and what truly separates it from the conventional matchmaking circuit.

It has become immensely difficult to find the right partner these days with whom you are willing to secure your happily ever after. Not to mention the contemporary circumstances where people are forced to isolate and confine themselves within their houses. The COVID’19 has established a severe state of inertia especially for those who were deeply indulged in a socializing work environment. They have now been compelled to observe loneliness and avoid human interaction at all times.

Matchbox has latched itself against the practical narratives that the people have developed over the years when it comes to the concept of marriage, and so it strongly believes that it is important to have a partner who constantly works with you to make your marriage a successful one. So, we will help you to better understand our operations, and although we are not going to fully disclose our secret ingredient, we thought that it would be just right to share with you the main ones that will blow your minds.



Matchbox takes your desires and love interests quite seriously and it ensures that a serious commitment takes place through the right match. We know that there are people who are tremendously busy and they do not wish to indulge in non-serious relationships. And unlike your conventional dating applications where you meet people only for the purpose of temporary dating, Matchbox only identifies users who are ready to make a firm commitment through marriage that is why it is specifically a matrimonial service for people residing in the Northern American Continent and in Canada.

Single Muslims in a FIX, finding the right match

According to the contemporary circumstances there seems to be a firm sense of commitment residing within the single Muslims, and they are enormously invested into getting to know each other before meeting up. Through the utilization of the Matchbox platform it has become paramount and in a sense inevitable for single Muslims to provide a fair chance to their potential partners rather than brushing them off or peculiarly avoiding them because of some insignificant or obscure reason. The practice was once quite excessively prevalent because of the other dating applications which provide their users with the option of obscurely ghost their potential partners by serving too many available options. It has been a frequent practice in the past and it still continues to prevail that due to certain dating applications a great number of individuals were in the habitual practice of jumping from one person to another due to petty and doltish reasons instead of establishing a firm commitment.

Matchbox keeps all the prevailing circumstances of the past and present in view, and it maintains a view of long term progression for the future as well. The establishment of a firm commitment is quite perceptive when it comes to Matchbox because most of the customers happen to be professional Muslims, who hail from various fields in North America, and the severity of their professionalism doesn’t really allow them to mingle with other people; exceptions for time can only be made during the weekends. The CEO and Founder of Matchbox, Faiza Khan had the following to add when asked for her opinion about the use of Matchbox amidst the chaos that Covid-19 has been.

“Since the users are highly professional individuals who are deeply indulged with their daily routines, we have sorted their predicament of not having enough time to look for partner by providing the facility of designated professional matchmakers to perform their search task for them,”

She further adds.

“Our preference of dealing is reserved for professional individuals who don’t have enough time to socialize with new people and the people who are not active enough on the social media, or they might not have the energy or time to delve in such activities.”

Ever since the spread of the COVID’19 most of the individuals who had been rigorously busy with their routinely lives have now been unexpectedly clouded with enough time to ponder and think. The lock-down has enforced the practice of staying at home, and this practice is making the individuals who were once busy think about who they would want as their partner, and this ultimately opens the opportunity for our professional matchmakers to better understand and communicate their interests. Through this methodology and the uncalled lock-down will allow these individuals to connect and invest enough time to think about their potential matches and they will be facilitated with the desired explanations.


What do the Numbers Say!

Our research indicates that a significant spike occurred during this lock-down, and Matchbox has seen a massive 70% rise in signups ever since the lock-down has been imposed. Before the introduction of Matchbox an enormous number of people were relying on Matrimonial sites and dating applications to find love, but the implications projected that the outcomes were not resolving the dilemmas of the people and they were not ending up with proper commitments. Ergo, it may perceptively be detected the applications and websites were not fulfilling the purpose they were created for.

Matchbox aims to change the conventional approach associated with Muslims and their relationships.
“We are living in a time of great changes and we can evidently see that more changes are forthcoming, single Muslims are now in command of choosing who they want to marry rather than relying on the traditional roots of arranged marriages,”
Says Faiza.

She also states that while Matchbox aims to vanquish the stereotypical views, it vigorously aims to maintain the respect and privacy for its client considering how valuable the aforesaid are these days. She believes that this pandemic has allowed people to straighten out their priorities.
“It is quite important to choose a partner who is compatible and shares similar values because a lot of couples are forced to spend time at home with one another which they apparently did not (unintentionally)  while living their lives and working . They now have plenty of time on their hands.”

Canadian women create ‘offline dating’ service for Muslims looking for love

For single Muslims looking for love, like most people, they often don’t have to go beyond the comfort of their phones.

Apps like Minder (the Muslim version of Tinder), and Muzmatch offer (sometimes an overwhelming) amount of options, and other popular apps like Dil Mil, Bumble and Tinder also have plenty of Muslims in the pool. But when 39-year-old Bano Murtuja of Brampton, Ont., started noticing Muslims around her were still struggling to find love, she wondered if it had something to do with faith.

“There are so many services out there, but very few that take into account the competing pressures people of the Muslim faith have,” she tells Global News. “Busy professionals who want to settle down, but don’t have the time and often emotional energy to speak to tens of people before finding someone who may be compatible.”

Months later, she joined Faiza Khan, 27, of Oakville, Ont., and Matchbox was born. A personalized North American matchmaking service for Muslims, that interviews every member personally before they join the service. The company, which officially launched in December 2016, encourages the idea of “offline dating.”

“We wanted to create a service that respected our client’s privacy, respect their time and make the process of finding a marriage partner fun again. So the matchmaker — a real human being, not a computer or site search criteria — does a lot of the initial work. Our matchmakers look for compatible people, make sure we’re meeting our client’s requirements, and then introducing clients to one another.”

Barriers for some Muslim Canadians to finding love

Signing up for Matchbox is free, but a single introduction is $250. A “one-to-one platinum service,” which includes meeting the person’s friends and family, and confirming details like health, education and employment, start at $10,000.

The service has also advertised themselves to fit the needs of more unique relationships like divorced Muslims or single parents. They currently do not offer services for LGBTQ couples.

And although her idea isn’t unique to the community — matchmaking between families is a traditional route to marriage still done by many — she adds people are opening up to the idea of finding love outside the family circle. “Just as with any community, Muslims come in all shapes, sizes and outlooks,” she adds. “For many Muslims — even those who don’t consider themselves very practicing — marriage is a serious decision and making use of a professional service just makes sense.”

Online dating taboos

Dr. Saunia Ahmad, a clinical psychologist of Toronto Psychology Clinic, says while there are many types of Muslims out there, all with different needs when it comes to love, the concept of online dating for some may still be considered taboo.

“Some Muslims are fine with it, while other more devout Muslims ask if this type of dating is OK or not,” she tells Global News. “Some people are concerned about judgment or not being a good religious person.” And when you are single, or on apps, for some, it may feel like the last resort.

“Some people feel incomplete if they haven’t met someone or gotten married,” she says. “In Islam, part of our mission or objective religiously is getting married.”

And those people who still identify as Muslims, but engage in premarital sex or drink alcohol, for example, may also face additional challenges, Ahmad adds, to finding someone who can connect with them specifically, without being judged.

But online dating itself has also changed the way Muslims date, she adds. Often, marriages would be arranged through family members but now, sites and apps have allowed single Muslims to meet others they can really connect with.

A Muslim dating in the real world

Fahmida Kamali, a 25-year-old from Toronto, says she has tried a majority of dating apps and sites (both for Muslims and not specifically for Muslims), and says it can sometimes be overwhelming.

“I didn’t know a lot of Muslims and I don’t have a ton of Muslim friends,” she tells Global News. But Kamali also says her appearance, with a hijab, sometimes makes it harder for her to meet men in public because people don’t know if they can approach her.

And as a divorced woman with open-minded parents, marriage is still on her mind, and it is something she says Muslims, or anyone for that matter, shouldn’t shy away from in conversation.

“I have certain values I hold to relationships and dating,” she says. “We don’t have to talk about marriage right away, but I need to know if you have the intention to get married one day. I am open to talk about it.”


10 of the Most Important Qualities Women Look for in a Guy

Finding your person is no easy task. And sometimes it feels like the dating pool is filled with too many frogs, not nearly enough princes (thanks, Meghan Markle). So we sat down with three relationship experts, including husband and wife marriage counselor duo and authors of the 30th Anniversary edition of Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix Ph.D and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D, and marriage and family therapist Amy McMahan, MS, LMFTA, to find out what women are (and should!) be looking for in Mr. Right.

1. Chemistry

Don’t feel bad the next time you turn someone down because “the chemistry” just isn’t there. McMahan says initially women are drawn to men based on attraction. “We think to ourselves, can we carry on a conversation with this person? Do I feel energized when I talk to this person? These are qualities that help to establish a foundation, to form a deeper connection, and a relationship with this person,” McMahan says.

2. Vulnerability

It’s difficult to build a relationship with someone who’s closed off. “A man who is vulnerable has a counter-cultural willingness to step away from the power position which men are raised to feel comfortable being in,” Hunt says. “For the partnership to happen, a man has to be willing to be vulnerable and he has to open his heart in order for that to happen.” And heads up, ladies: this goes for you too.


This is a big one, because it has three parts. “Stability means emotionally stable (so not flying off at the handle), then economically stable, and also relationally stable,” Hendrix says. If you’re not familiar with the third part, Hendrix explains that it means you can count on him to be predictable, reliable, and that he’s essentially someone you could rely on if you owned a home together or had a child with him.

4. Equality

If you’ve ever felt less than or silenced in a relationship, it might be because your partner wasn’t treating you as their equal. “The cultural discrepancy between equality that’s been around for thousands of years where women were unequal to men in every way, socially, economically, politically sexually, that’s changing,” Hendrix says. “Now women want to be seen as equals to men and not have to compete with men for dominance.”

5. Awareness

It’s okay to want to influence (not change) your partner. In fact, McMahan says research by John M. Gottman (who studied what makes happy couples happy) shows that relationships are more successful when men allow themselves to be influenced by their partners. “The majority of women already do this according to research, but it’s not the same for men,” McMahan says. Being open to being influenced means the man shows awareness of his partner’s emotions and needs, and responds to them.

6. Emotional Presence

That means someone who stays focused on the talker — rather than looking at their cell phone or other distractions — but this goes both ways. A woman should be emotionally present while her significant other is talking, and she should expect him to do the same in return. But being present also includes being responsive, Hendrix says. Meaning when someone texts or calls their partner, the other person should respond as soon as possible, or let them know if it’s going to be awhile before they can respond.

7. Curiosity (About Her!)

It’s important that you feel like your partner is interested in you. “We tell [couples] to shift from judgement to curiosity. Instead of judging a person about their actions and what they do, be curious about it. Wonder why they dress that way or why they act like this,” Hunt says. However, she warns that you don’t want a person who interviews or grills you in conversation.

8. Protectiveness

Hendrix says this one is non-negotiable. “Women want to be with someone who they feel safe with at all times. They want to say ‘With you I feel safe. I don’t have to be defensive. I know that when I’m around you, I’m going to be okay,'” Hendrix says.

9. Acceptance

If your man is trying to change you, then he isn’t the man for you. “[Women] should be looking for a man who isn’t assessing them and constantly trying to upgrade them or improve them,” Hendrix says. “We tell our daughter when you feel judged by the guy, export him to the door or leave yourself.” When someone criticizes or judges you, they’re saying you’re not okay as you are, you have to change and then I’ll accept you, says Hendrix.

10. Assertiveness

You don’t want someone who doesn’t ask for what he wants. “It’s one of the most important things that allows a relationship to thrive well,” Hunt says. “And so many men can’t do that. They don’t feel like they can ask for anything, so they don’t tell the woman they’re dating that they’d like a back rub every now and then or a foot rub.” Hunt says that healthy couples tell each other what they need and what actions make them feel most loved and cared about.

Article Source: redbookmag


We Expect Too Much From Our Romantic Partners

Tall, dark, handsome, funny, kind, great with kids, six-figure salary, a harsh but fair critic of my creative output … the list of things people want from their spouses and partners has grown substantially in recent decades. So argues Eli Finkel, a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University in his new book, The All-or-Nothing Marriage.

As Finkel explains, it’s no longer enough for a modern marriage to simply provide a second pair of strong hands to help tend the homestead, or even just a nice-enough person who happens to be from the same neighborhood. Instead, people are increasingly seeking self-actualization within their marriages, expecting their partner to be all things to them. Unfortunately, that only seems to work if you’re an Olympic swimmer whose own husband is her brusque coach. Other couples might find that career-oriented criticism isn’t the best thing to hear from the father of your 4-year-old. Or, conversely, a violinist might simply have a hard time finding a skilled conductor—who also loves dogs and long walks on the beach—on Tinder.

I recently spoke with Finkel about how to balance this blend of expectations and challenges in a modern relationship. A lightly edited and condensed version of our conversation follows.

Olga Khazan: How has what we expect from our marriages changed since, say, 100 years ago?

Eli Finkel: The main change has been that we’ve added, on top of the expectation that we’re going to love and cherish our spouse, the expectation that our spouse will help us grow, help us become a better version of ourselves, a more authentic version of ourselves.

Khazan: As in our spouse should, just to give a random example, provide interesting feedback on our articles that we’re writing?

Finkel: That’s obviously a white-collar variation on the theme, but I think up and down the socioeconomic hierarchy, it isn’t totally crazy these days to hear somebody say something like, “He’s a wonderful man and a loving father and I like and respect him, but I feel really stagnant in the relationship. I feel like I’m not growing and I’m not willing to stay in a marriage where I feel stagnant for the next 30 years.”

Khazan: Why has that become something that we are just now concerned with? Why weren’t our great-grandparents concerned with that?

Finkel: The primary reason for this is cultural. In the 1960s, starting around that time, we rebelled as a society against the strict social rules of the 1950s. The idea that women were supposed to be nurturing but not particularly assertive. Men were supposed to be assertive but not particularly nurturing. There were relatively well-defined expectations for how people should behave, and in the 1960s, our society said, “To hell with that.”

Humanistic psychology got big. So these were ideas about human potential and the idea that we might strive to live a more authentic, true-to-the-self sort of life. Those ideas really emerged in the 1930s and 1940s, but they got big in the 1960s.

Khazan: You write about how this has actually been harder on lower-income Americans. Can you talk a little bit about why that is?

Finkel: People with college degrees are marrying more, their marriages are more satisfying, and they’re less likely to divorce. The debate surrounds [the question]: Why is it that people who have relatively little education and don’t earn very much money have marriages that, on average, are struggling more than those of us who have more education and more money?

There basically is no meaningful difference between the poorest members of our society and the wealthier members of our society in the instincts for what makes for a good marriage.

[However, lower-income people] have more stress in their lives, and so the things that they likely have to deal with, when they’re together, are stressful things and the extent to which the time they get together is free to focus on the relationship, to focus on interesting conversation, to focus on high-level goals is limited. It’s tainted by a sense of fatigue, by a sense of limited bandwidth because of dealing with everyday life.

Khazan: What is Mount Maslow? And can you try to reach the top of Mount Maslow and maintain a successful marriage?

Finkel: Most people depict Maslow’s hierarchy as a triangle, with physiological and safety needs at the bottom, love and belonging needs in the middle, and esteem and self-actualization needs at the top. It’s useful to reconceptualize Maslow’s hierarchy as a mountain.

So imagine that you’re trying to scale this major mountain, and you’re trying to meet your physiological and safety needs, and then when you have some success with that you move on to your love and belonging needs, and as you keep going up the mountain, you finally arrive at your self-actualization needs, and that’s where you’re focusing your attention.

As any mountain-climber knows, as you get to the top of a mountain the air gets thin, and so many people will bring supplemental oxygen. They try to make sure that while they’re up there at the top they have enough resources, literally in terms of things like oxygen and warm clothing, to make sure that they can actually enjoy the view from up there.

The analogy to marriage is for those of us who are trying to reach the peak, the summit of Mount Maslow where we can enjoy this extraordinary view. We can have this wonderful set of experiences with our spouse, a particularly satisfying marriage, but we can’t do it if we’re not spending the time and the emotional energy to understand each other and help promote each other’s personal growth.

The idea of the book is that the changing nature of our expectations of marriage have made more marriages fall short of expectations, and therefore disappoint us. But they have put within reach the fulfillment of a new set of goals that people weren’t even trying to achieve before. It’s the fulfillment of those goals that makes marriage particularly satisfying.

Khazan: Is it risky to have your closest partner also be your harshest critic, so that you can grow?

Finkel: My New York Times op-ed piece focused on the challenges of having a partner who’s simultaneously responsible for making us feel loved, and sexy, and competent, but also ambitious, and hungry, and aspirational. How do you make somebody feel safe, and loved, and beautiful without making him or her feel complacent? How do you make somebody feel energetic, and hungry, and eager to work hard without making them feel like you disapprove of the person they currently are?

The answer to that question is, it depends.

You can do it within a given marriage, but they should be aware that that is what they’re asking the partner to do. They should be aware that in some sense, the pursuit of those goals are incompatible and they need to be developing a way of connecting together that can make it possible.

For example, you might try to provide support that sounds more like this: “I’m just so proud of everything you’ve achieved, and I’m so proud that you’re never fully satisfied with it, and you’re just so impressive in how you constantly and relentlessly work toward improving yourself.” That can convey a sense that I approve of you, but I recognize what your aspirations are. Right?

[What’s more], there’s no reason why it has to be the same person who plays both of those roles. I would just urge everybody, think about what you’re looking for from this one relationship and decide, are these expectations realistic in light of who I am, who my partner is, what the dynamics that we have together are? If so, how are we going to achieve all of these things together? Or alternatively, how can we relinquish some of these roles that we play in each others’ lives, and outsource them to, say, another member of your social network?

Khazan: That’s the idea of having a diversified social portfolio, right? Can you explain how that would work?

Finkel: There’s a cool study by Elaine Cheung at Northwestern University, where she looked at the extent to which people look to a very small number of people to help them manage their emotions versus an array of different people, to manage different sorts of emotions. So, one person for cheering up sadness, another person for celebrating happiness, and so forth.

It turns out that people who have more diversified social portfolios, that is, a larger number of people that they go to for different sorts of emotions, those people tend to have overall higher-quality life. This is one of the arguments in favor of thinking seriously about looking to other people to help us, or asking less of this one partner.

I think most of us will be kind of shocked by how many expectations and needs we’ve piled on top of this one relationship. I’m not saying that people need to lower their expectations, but it is probably a bad plan to throw all of these expectations on the one relationship and then try to do it on the cheap. That is, to treat time with your spouse as something you try to fit in after you’ve attended to the kids, and after you’ve just finished this one last thing for work. Real, attentive time for our spouse is something that we often don’t schedule, or we schedule insufficient time for it.

Khazan: What is climbing down from the mountain? Should we try to do that?

Finkel: There’s the recalibration strategy, which is fixing an imbalance, not by increasing the investment in the marriage, but by decreasing the amount that we’re asking or demanding of the marriage.

There’s no shame at all in thinking of ways that you can ask less. That’s not settling, and that’s not making the marriage worse. It’s saying, look, “These are things I’ve been asking of the marriage that have been a little bit disappointing to me. These are things that I’m going to be able to get from the marriage but frankly, given what I understand about my partner, myself, and the way the two of us relate, it’s just going to be a lot of work to be able to achieve those things through the marriage.”

Khazan: So what is “going all-in,” and what are the risks and rewards of that?

Finkel: The question isn’t, “Are you asking too much?” The question is, “Are you asking the appropriate amount, in light of the nature of the relationship right now?” The idea of “going all-in” is, “Hell yes. I want to ask my spouse to help make me feel loved and give me an opportunity to love somebody else and also [be] somebody who’s going to help me grow into an ideal, authentic version of myself. And I’m going do the same for him or her. I recognize that that is a massive ask, and because I recognize that that’s a massive ask I’m going to make sure that we have sufficient time together. That when we’re together we’re paying sufficient attention to each other, that the time that we’re investing in the relationship is well-spent.”

Article Source: theatlantic

The Best Marriage Advice From A Divorced Man

In a time when only about half of marriages survive the test of time, it’s important to be extremely careful about where you get your relationship advice from. Between tabloid magazines that want to sell you phony dating advice to make a few bucks, blockbuster rom-coms that sell you happily-ever-afters to make a few billion bucks, and even the well-meaning friend who just wants the best for you but maybe doesn’t know what she’s talking about, there’s a lot of bad relationship advice out there!

So, it may seem counterintuitive that some of the most honest and practical advice about marriage could come from somebody who actually failed at it. But hindsight is 20/20 as they say, and one divorced man is now speaking out with the biggest things he learned from his first marriage falling apart… and it’s pretty beautiful.

Marriage Advice From A Divorced Man

The very day after his divorce became official, Gerald Rogers, author and motivational speaker, sat down at his computer and shared a wedding day photo and a heartfelt message about what he’s learned about keeping a marriage happy and healthy (he’s now happily married to Krysta J. Rogers).

“Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1) Never stop courting.

Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.


Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again

You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.


Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.


Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions

It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU

They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8) Allow your woman to JUST BE

When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.


Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.


Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.


Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.


To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.


And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.


The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)


You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.


If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.


The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.


Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past

Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.


In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.


Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.
Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.”

Article Source: theheartysoul

Why People Who Marry Ambitious Women End Up The Happiest In Life

There’s a saying that when you find the right person, your life should take off more than it settles down. That phrase is only so popular because there are so many people who see marriage and partnership like a finish line, the other side at which they are free to relax into life and stop trying so hard. Their objective was to be chosen, and everything they did until that moment was to make themselves the best pick.

There is a difference between people who marry ambitious women and people who don’t, and you see it in almost every part of their lives. There’s a difference in how they live, how they interact, what they argue about, what they do together.

Ambitious women are passionate about bettering themselves and their lifestyle. When you couple up with someone like that, you feel it ripple into every part of your existence.

There are so many stories and stigmas about ambitious women, and how unwise it is to marry one. This is because you’re only hearing about the outliers, the Miranda Priestleys of the world. The career-obsessed, heartless women who don’t have time to pencil a date into their schedule.

But this is not what most ambitious women are like… not even close. Most ambitious women want to work hard to provide for themselves and their families. They are as aspirational about their relationships as they are about their résumés. They are committed to a lifelong journey of self-growth. Their wedding is not the single most important day of their lives. They don’t need to be taken care of. They are willing to change when they need to. They’re not afraid to hold you to a higher standard than you’ve ever held yourself. Their whole life has been about becoming the strong, successful partner they were always told to marry.

These are the women who aren’t afraid to work a second job at night not only so that their kids can eat, but so that they can go on field trips and have the sneakers they want. These are the women who see their roles at home as equally important as their ones in the world. These are the women who log their hours in their offices and businesses and then care just as much about PTA meetings and pre-school and making time to have sex with their partners. These are the women who do not complain that everything is “so hard” even when it really, really is.

Ambitious women are holistic about their approach to life. They have multiple interests. They read, they share information they find useful. They have hobbies and friends and a plan for what happens to their lives once they’re done being caretakers.

It’s time we stop categorizing ambitious women as corporate she-devils who are too damaged to find real love. The most ambitious women in the world are the ones who won’t have a life handed to them by someone else, but who will build it themselves, day by day, moment by moment, with whatever they have, wherever they are, and whenever they can.

Article Source: Thought Catalog

10 Things I’ve Learned in Dating A Single Mother

I see posts all the time from the single mom perspective, but none from the man’s perspective… so here are some thoughts for all you guys out there wondering if dating a single mom is for you.

1. Know she doesn’t need you. The faster you can grasp this, the better. She’s done this on her own and created a strong rhythm of life that revolves around her kids… You haven’t been a part of that, so if you think she needs you, she doesn’t. That will bruise the ego a bit.

2. Don’t waste her time. You should know whether or not you have the relational maturity to court a woman with kids. If you are unsure, don’t. Again, she is fine without you and doesn’t need the emotional rollercoaster of you “figuring it out.” There should never need to be a conversation of, “I am really into you but I’m just not sure about the kids.” Don’t you EVER make her feel bad about being a mom or manipulate her into guilt for choosing her kids over you.

3. Don’t know everything about her. While you have probably creeped her profile and know a few things about her and her kids, keep the conversation/questions vague and open. Spitting out details about her life on the first date that you “saw on Facebook” will immediately send a red flag. She’s a single mom, so chances are she watches SVU at night on Netflix and you’ve just fit the profile of every sketch child abductor on the show. Don’t be that guy.

4. Be honest. There is no need to over-inflate her perception of you. There is no reason to tell her how much you love kids if you’re just trying to get laid… Hell, maybe that’s all she wants. We’re all adults here. Be honest. Should you pursue a relationship, it’s going to be complex as hell, so honesty up front is going to create a relationship of honesty.

5. Pay, always. Listen, I get we’re in a culture of “equality” and “I don’t need a man to pay my bills,” but damn, pay for dinner and the date. She’s already paid for a babysitter and is taking time away from her kids because she is intrigued by you. Show her a first-class experience that allows her the opportunity to be stress-free.

6. Create opportunities that allow her to be seen. I can tell you that most days, she looks in the mirror and doesn’t see what you see. She’s tired. She’s frustrated. She’s learned to adapt to her reality and the routine has become her identity. Remind her that you see HER… not the mom, the woman. The dreamer. The lover. The companion. The champion.

7. Calm down, no one is asking you to be a dad. Matter of fact, her kids’ dad(s) are probably in the picture. Learning to respect that relationship, know your role, and create healthy boundaries will be of great value to your relationship moving forward, especially with her co-parent. They didn’t work out… cool. She may not especially like him… Cool. Not your business at this point. Her kids may not even like you at first… Don’t take it personally. You’re just not dad, and you’re taking time away from mom.

8. Trust is going to go in waves. You could build a relationship that is super solid over 6 months and then you’re going to do something that triggers a pain point. She’s been hurt and while she desperately wants to trust you, her idea of a fairy tale has been wounded, and you need to respect that. Patience is your greatest friend, and she’s worth the investment.

9. Once you’re in, you’re in. When she says she loves you, she means it. When she plans a future with you, she means it. When she introduces you to her kids (which you should never pressure), she means it. This doesn’t mean she’s expecting a ring by spring, but it does mean that she’s let you into her heart and her world. If you’re not “in” by this point, you’re a dick for leading her on and not communicating directly.

10. Give her what she needs every day. She doesn’t need your money. She will appreciate the gifts, but I’ve learned that more than “stuff,” she wants time. Focused attention. Affirming touch. To be seen. To be heard. To be known. And her kids need to SEE their mother being loved well.

I’m sure I could come up with dozens more, and I’m sure you could add to the list as well…. But this is a good starting point.

Bonus: You will attract the quality of person you are. So if you’re looking for a woman that fits these characteristics, make sure you are the man that commands this caliber of a woman. While it’s not “easy” and is a 24/7 learning curve, the greatest decision of my life was to take out a single mom.

Article Source: goodmenproject

Forget About Feelings, Real Love Is A Deliberate Choice

My wife and I have known each other since high school, but didn’t date until much later. We had only dated a couple of weeks before we realized that we were madly in love and wanted to get married.

I was all for it! I even suggested a spontaneous, immediate wedding in Vegas. (Seriously.) Kim, however, was a bit more practical about the whole thing. She wanted to take time to plan it all out.

I felt deflated. “We’re so different,” I said. “You like to plan, while I like to be spontaneous.”

Kim’s eyes widened. “I can be spontaneous!” she said, hurriedly. “I can totally be spontaneous. You just have to tell me in advance when you want to be spontaneous, and I will write it down in my planner…”

I gave her a strange look. She was totally serious! Clearly, Kim did not understand the meaning of spontaneity.

Funny as it may seem, the more I think about this conversation the more I’ve come to realize that planning to love someone—or choosing to love someone—is actually one of the most beautiful things about love.

I’ve heard it said that real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.

It’s true.

When all the butterflies have fluttered away and your wedding day becomes a distant memory, you will discover that you’ve married someone who is just as imperfect as you. And they, in turn, will come to learn that you have problems, insecurities, struggles, quirks—and body odor—just as real as theirs!

Then you will realize that real love isn’t just a euphoric, spontaneous feeling—it’s a deliberate choice—a plan to love each other for better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. Of course, you don’t choose who you’re attracted to, but you definitely choose who you fall in love with and (more importantly) who you stay in love with.

Our society places a lot of emphasis on feelings. We are taught that we should always follow our feelings and do whatever makes us happy. But feelings are very fickle and fleeting. Real love, on the other hand, is like the north star in the storms of life; it is constant, sure, and true. Whenever we’re lost and confused we can find strength in the love that we have chosen.

Besides, life already offers us plenty of spontaneity: rejection, job loss, heartache, disappointment, despair, illness, and a host of other problems. We simply can’t abandon ship every time we encounter a storm in our marriage. Real love is about weathering the storms of life together.

When my grandma was in her fifties, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, a degenerative disease that disrupts the body’s ability to communicate with its nervous system. Within a few short years, Grandma had lost the ability to walk and was confined to a wheelchair. Grandpa, who was then the chief of police, retired two years earlier than planned in order to take care of Grandma. He helped her do everything—from getting around the house and visiting the doctor, to helping her take her medicine and bathe.

In speaking about my grandma, Grandpa once told my mom, “It hurts me to see her like this. You know, when I got married I thought that everything would be smooth sailing. I never imagined that I would have to help her change her catheter every day. But I do it and I don’t mind it—because I love her.”

Love is so much more than some random, euphoric feeling. And real love isn’t always fluffy, cute, and cuddly. More often than not, real love has its sleeves rolled up, dirt and grime smeared on its arms, and sweat dripping down its forehead. Real love asks us to do hard things—to forgive one another, to support each other’s dreams, to comfort in times of grief, or to care for family. Real love isn’t easy—and it’s nothing like the wedding day—but it’s far more meaningful and wonderful.

I recently came across this wonderful quote: “No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.”

Whenever my wife and I run into a problem in our marriage we do our best to choose love. While we’re certainly not perfect, the love we share today is more real and more wonderful than anything we had ever anticipated.

So, whatever spontaneous storm may come our way I plan on loving my wife.

If you truly love someone (and they truly love you), commit to that love and plan on it being hard work.

But also plan on it being the most rewarding work of your life.

Article Source: Sethadamsmith


7 Men on Why They’re Glad They Married Young


“We learned to be there for each other when all you have is almost nothing.”

When it comes to getting married young, two schools of thought emerge: It’s unwise to get married before you’ve had time to date a lot and mature, or it’s something that happens to very lucky people who find their ~true love~ early in life. In any case, ask anyone who’s married young and they’ve heard both responses. But how do people who actually took the plunge in their early 20s feel about their decision? To fuel everyone’s inner hopeless romantic, seven guys who got married young (or well before the average marriage age of about 29) opened up about the best parts about it.

1. “At first had a lot of anxiety about getting married young. I’d always pictured myself as the kind of person who gets hitched later in life. Then, to add Caesar to the salad, my parents were going through a separation. Was this the right thing to do?

It was. Every time I come home after a long day in the soul-sucking world outside, I’m able to see and kiss and talk to a wonderful person that I’ve taken some big life steps with. It’s not all sweetness of course, but having and maintaining that fountain of sweetness earlier in life seems like a great gift to me.” — Jorge, 25, married at 25

2. “We married days before graduating from college. We started a family about two years later. While the finances were tight with fledgling careers and a new baby, we have never regretted marrying and starting a family young. Had we been in our 30s when we got married, we would have missed out on many unique growing experiences. I would tell any man who is certain they have found their life partner to not wait.” — Daniel, 52, married at 23

3. “It gave me more time with my wife. In our 20s, we launched our careers, traveled, and bought our first home (and did a ton of work on it). We had our kids in our 30s, which was great because we were still young. Our daughters are now 12 and 14 which means we will be empty nesters in our 50s. That hopefully will give us at least another 20 years together. Very glad I got married young.” — John, 46, married at 24

4. “When you’re 20, you haven’t fully grown into the person you’re meant to be yet. That can be a scary season for sure, with so many uncertainties in life — wins, failures, closed doors and new experiences all ahead. I️ can’t imagine going through any of those things without [my wife] by my side, knowing that she’s in it for the long haul. In the midst of absolute chaos, she’s an absolute certainty. I️ don’t think I️ would have come out of it the same way without her.

When we first got engaged I️ heard so many people (uninvited input, I might add) say things like, why so young, aren’t you afraid you are going to grow apart? And personally I️ think it does the opposite. I️ think you grow together.” — David, 23, married at 20

5. “We have been able to build the life we both want together from a young age instead of having to merge our already established lives. We truly appreciate the opportunity we have to help each other become better people, grow and enjoy life together as a couple.” — Marcus, 30, married at 23

6. “We met during college when we had time to be friends, work together, goof off, and just grow in our relationship. We had kids young, too. Our oldest was born when I was 24. But by then we had been together for five years and had really started working on what it takes to build a lasting relationship. We learned to be there for each other when all you have is almost nothing. I know that she loves me for me, and I love her for her because I didn’t have anything else to give but me. I see so many people trying to date in their 30s and I can’t imagine. And now, at 38, I’ve been with my wife for over half my life and it’s hard to imagine not being with her. She’s a larger part of my history now than my single self!” — Aaron, 38, married at 22

7. “Having been married since before I️ was 25 is awesome! The long and short of it is that we get to take on life together for more of our lives and that is completely worth it!” — Matt, 27, married at 23

Article Source: Cosmopolitan

The Burdensome Myth of Romantic Love

A collection of Einstein’s letters auctioned off in 1996 contains a list of marital expectations for his wife, Maliva Maric. The list includes daily laundry “kept in good order,” “three meals regularly in my room,” a desk maintained neatly “for my use only,” and the demand that she quit talking or leave the room “if I request it.” The marriage ended in divorce, but the list lives on as an illustration not only of Einstein’s darker domestic side, but also of assumptions commonly held about marriage in 1914.

Compared with Einstein’s requirements, modern marital expectations have surely evolved for the better. Or have they? An insightful study by Sarah K. Balstrup theorizes that as people abandon religious institutions, they start expecting romantic relationships to satisfy a host of needs that formerly were satisfied through religion. If you think clean laundry and regular meals require effort, try meeting the demands of relationship-worship circa 2018 by providing transcendence, unconditional love, wholeness, meaning, worth, and communion.

The Western fixation on romantic love creates a crushing burden for mere mortals. It engenders a powerful myth regarding love, courtship, and marriage: that a fallible human partner can not only share our passions but sate our existential yearnings. Contemporary couples expect much more from marriage than it can realistically deliver, a phenomenon noted by social psychologists. As Eli Finkel of Northwestern University observes, “most of us will be kind of shocked by how many expectations and needs we’ve piled on top of this one relationship.”

The problems arising from the myth of romantic love affect not only the secular culture but also people who, while trying to adhere to their faith, must deal with the competing ideology-mythology surrounding them. We all fall prey to the lore, and so the rise of the romantic-love myth has coincided with an increase in marital breakdown, emblematized by a 50-percent divorce rate. A recent survey by the University of Maryland’s Philip Cohen reinforces the breakdown narrative by showing that marital satisfaction has declined in the last several decades. In the 1970s, 68 percent of Americans said they were “very happy” in their marriages; today, 60 percent say they are.

Though reasons for marital discontent abound, Cohen teases out a correlation of religion with marital happiness. This correlation suggests that, in order for a relationship to flourish, existential needs should be met outside it. In study after study, the most successful marriages tend to unite religious couples whose shared beliefs conduce to stability and satisfaction. These marriages not only buck the trends of divorce, abuse, neglect, violence, and dysfunction, but also benefit from the incentive religion offers for couples to work together for something outside the self. Through years of serving, sacrificing, problem-solving, and forgiving, couples derive the experience of being profoundly known, understood, and loved.

The myth of romantic love promises a faster, easier route to transcendence. Balstrup writes that relationships have “become the primary mythology of the sacred in the collective tongue” of Western culture. The initial rush of endorphins that accompanies falling in love and the sexual experience imitates the “religious experience of ultimacy.” Desire for this experience drives men and women forward in a quest for mythology’s unattainable lover. Proliferating online matchmaking services, part of a two-billion-dollar growth industry in which 15 percent of adults participate, attest to the appeal of this quest, as do dating coaches. These and other cottage industries offer seekers a form of providence oriented to romantic redemption.

Traditionally arranged marriages—the kind Tevye’s children rebel against in Fiddler on the Roof, with each successive daughter’s marriage involving an increased ratio of romantic love to tradition—provide an interesting contrast to the romantic myth. In general, arranged marriages exhibit the same levels of passion and intimacy as non-arranged marriages. Yet one study of Asian Indians in the United States showed that arranged marriages tend to be happier and last longer than non-arranged marriages. Another study suggested that “choices made throughout a marriage have more to do with marital happiness than [does] choice in mate selection.” But this hard-won happiness faces stiff competition from the temporary euphoria of romantic connection.

Secularization has not undone the connections we feel among beauty, love, truth, and the Ultimate, but simply rewritten the holy journey. In today’s lore, writes Balstrup, “all individuals have a soul mate, yet all must prove themselves worthy of this Ultimate gift,” enduring trials of faith that enable salvation by romantic love. Converts on film and the Internet preach that you, too, can be saved. Americans increasingly value romance over the institution of marriage, just as they shun religious institutions for the ethereal appeal of spirituality. But even as we fall out of love with institutions, we continue to have the needs they once satisfied, displacing those needs onto relationships that collapse under a weight only God and faith can lift.

Article Source: FirstThings


The Secret to a Happy Marriage Is Knowing How to Fight

It’s peak “engagement season” — the span of time between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day when, according to the website WeddingWire, more than a third of couples pledge to marry.

As couples move from whispering sweet nothings to mounting strategic wedding-planning campaigns, their minds and inboxes will be deluged with checklists and countdowns, vendors and venues. But for the most part, their attention will be riveted by the Big Day, not by what comes after.

And why not? Couples understandably want to savor their giddy joy. The sociologist Andrew Cherlin has observed that marriage has become a capstone, rather than a cornerstone, of adult life. Accordingly, weddings have become less of a symbolic expression of a couple’s commitment to a shared future and more of a curated Instagram spectacle of “having arrived.”

The capstone wedding promotes the notion that its flurry of decisions represents a high point of stress and intensity, to be followed by the predictable routines of married life. Not so. I have been treating couples as a therapist for 20 years. I see couples whose unproductive fights over the dishes or in-laws are virtually unchanged, 17 years in. I also see couples whose frozen 17-year marriage begins to thaw once they start saying difficult things that need to be said.

Newly engaged couples do need to plan a wedding, if they want one. Chicken or fish for 150 doesn’t materialize out of thin air. But while they’re thinking about the Big Day, they should also think about how they will cope with disagreement. We’ve made love and marriage into such an ideal that people are afraid to consider, at the outset, just how stressful it can get.

Take money, a perennial source of wedding-related tension and marital strife. Three-quarters of couples pay more than they intended to for their wedding. According to a survey conducted in Britain, of the couples who went into debt paying for their wedding, a quarter of them immediately regret it. Weddings are expansive (and expensive) times, and a discussion of trade-offs can chafe against romantic enthusiasm.

But money decisions never stop being a challenge. I hear couples talk about money by casting one partner as the obstacle — the wife wants a vacation, the husband wants a car — instead of noting that life itself presents obstacles. Financial decisions need to take into account the other person’s thoughts, which are often in conflict with one’s own. Many people are conditioned to avoid talking openly about money, so they simmer in silence.

Once in a restaurant, I overheard a young woman announce to her dinner partner that she had decided to quit her job to plan their wedding. An excruciating silence ensued. Something had to be said, and I was rooting for the man to say it: Why didn’t you talk about it with me? Instead, he remained quiet.

People who study marriage, or work with couples in therapy, as I do, talk about the need for a “we story,” a collaboration between partners about values and goals. But if couples are going to collaborate, they have to figure out how to have a productive conversation. A conversation — as opposed to parallel monologues — involves two people who are making an effort to understand each other. In the grip of strong emotion, productive conversation can be surprisingly hard.

That is why many manuals offer advice for navigating communication traps. They counsel asking your partner whether it is a good time to talk (since couples routinely broach complicated topics on the fly), and striking a balance between empathy and problem-solving. If your partner is an avoider, don’t give up trying to connect. If your partner is an emoter, stay compassionate and firm: “I’ll be able to respond better if you take it down a couple of notches.” In bad moments, we all need these skills.

In our conflict-averse culture we don’t necessarily think of these skills as part of romance. But I’ve seen how the best marriages involve people who can deal with strong negative emotions — and who are cleareyed about how hard it can be. They don’t avoid anger, but they don’t indulge it. They tackle hard issues without shutting down. They apologize for their own bad behavior.

What will matter most in marriage is what’s possible on the other side of love’s first blush: conversations that are rewarding, intimate and real. It’s not that we come together in electric recognition and pure understanding, then fall away from that through conflict. Rather, we come together in a rush of passion, then we achieve love through continuing conversation.

Through that conversation we cultivate the essential emotional attitude in marriage: I can try to understand what you think and feel, without it taking away from my own experience. Your reality doesn’t cancel out mine.

All this may seem an awfully low priority when the to-do list is a mile long and the wedding planner needs an answer now. But in married life, a sense of emotional emergency almost always means it’s time to slow down. Emotions are often inconvenient.

The artist Georgia O’Keeffe said, “Nobody sees a flower — really — it is so small it takes time — we haven’t time — and to see takes time, like to have a friend takes time.” What most people want from marriage is an intimate friend. The key to lasting love is taking time to understand and respond.

A wedding is a one-shot celebration of tying the knot, but marriage is an open-ended practice of disentangling misunderstandings. I wish the newly engaged great happiness. I also wish that in between picking a caterer and a font for the invitations, they pause to think about how they fight, and how they want to talk.

Article Source: NYTimes

Robinson's mom and dad

A wedding photographer captured her parents’ love in this incredible viral photo shoot.

Amber Robinson, a photographer from Raleigh, North Carolina, is used to capturing photos of young couples in love.

Much of her business comes from weddings and engagement shoots with couples bursting at the seams with new love. Recently, however, she took on an assignment that was… a bit different from her usual fare.

The photos she took were no less romantic or full of love. Unlike her usual clients, the stars of this photo shoot were her own parents.

Robinson’s mom and dad — Marvin and Wanda Brewington — have been married for 47 years, and Robinson felt it was time the world heard their powerful love story.

She shared the glamorous photos on Instagram where they quickly went viral, racking up thousands of likes and comments.

The lifelong connection the couple has shared practically jumps off the screen, and has people across the internet swooning.

The photos weren’t just adorable. They held a powerful message about making love last far beyond a wedding day or engagement shoot.

“In this wonderful creative industry that I worked in, I focus so much on providing couple hours with a day of beautiful photography,” she wrote in the emotional post. “To be honest, rarely do I stop to think about the day, weeks, months or years that follow a wedding day.”

In her parents’ 47 years together, they’ve endured cancer, raised children, been through dozens of ups and downs, and have shown their children how to live with the generosity of an open heart.

“They are the epitome of where I strive to be in my own marriage and a constant reminder that a wedding is only a day, but a marriage is forever,” she wrote.

“If you are one of the millions in love, or maybe one of the millions of broken-hearted that need a visual reminder that love always endures, I would love for you to share this as a way of letting my mom and dad know, they are an inspiration to anyone who wants, believes, or is in love.”

There’s a myth floating around out there that true love is dead, killed by divorce and casual hookups — but that couldn’t be further from the truth.

People love to cite outdated divorce statistics, or “hook up culture,” as a sign that younger generations don’t take relationships seriously. But the data shows otherwise.

People are waiting longer and longer to get married, have more freedom to choose their partner, are feeling less pressure to settle down when they’re not ready (or at all, if they don’t want to!), and likely as a result of that, divorces are actually at a 40-year low.

“I guess people have been given a restored sense of hope through these images,” Robinson writes in an email. “So much bad is happening in the world and to look at these pictures and image that a lasting love IS possible just brings hope, especially during this time of the year.”

Lifelong monogamy isn’t for everyone. But it’s hard not to look at these photos and not get all warm and tingly.

Article Source: Up Worthy